Why 80% of Relationships Don't Work Out in College

To start off, I know that statistic that says 70% of people in a relationship coming out of college get married, BUT that means that you need to be IN a relationship for that to work. When you start going out with somebody in college so many things run through your head, it almost starts to hurt. I'm going to let you know a few things that just don't let a relationship work during your four years in college.

Trust
Trust is always the most important thing in a relationship, and it should be the first thing you achieve when you start dating a person. If you don't trust your partner as soon as he/she leaves your eyesight, you have a BIG problem. You need to be able to trust someone who will always be there for you; no matter what. You shouldn't be worrying who your boyfriend or girlfriend is talking to in class (it is okay to be a little jealous though).

The "What if" Factor
It's Friday night, your at party, and a cute guy or girl gives you the the "elevator look" (the look when someone looks you up and down with an interest). But wait, your in an exclusive relationship, so why are you even thinking about this situation? It's because we are curious and sexual beings and we can't help it. It is okay to look at the opposite sex, it's healthy, but when it comes to thinking a lot about it (which usually happens) is when it becomes a problem. You begin to think, "What if I had gone and talked to that cute guy/girl?" That is the question that messes with peoples heads the most, and excuse my language, but it's really, really SHITTY!

Freedom
When you meet someone in college you usually live very close, if not right down the hall from one another. This can get very unhealthy because you can get sick of someone very easily if they are around 24/7. What you really want are those butterflies in your stomach to NEVER go away. You should always look forward to seeing the person you most care about. If he or she is always around then you don't get to do the things you would usually do just chilling around by yourself. People need their alone time to think and continue their favorite hobbies what ever they may be.

Rumors
Need I say anymore than the title? I don't think so...

Long Distance Relationships
Most people have gone through one of these, and if not I'm sure you've been away from your significant other for a week or two. When it comes to these types of relationships visiting one another is SO important and communicating on a daily basis is a must (Not every five minutes though, that's a bit overkill). I take my hat off to people who are able to accomplish such a feat. Trust in this case is most important because you may never see who your partner hangs out with. You might hear them in the background when on the phone with them, and that can be very intimidating, but you must over look it.

My feeling about relationships in college is it's hard, very, very HARD. If I was given the chance to date the girls I did in my past years at college after I have graduated, things would be much different. Keep these things in mind next time you ask a girl or guy out, it might just help.

What do you think on the matter?

Cheers,

Matt